Allow me to add a disclaimer - I am not writing this post to drum up any sympathy or feelings from people about feeling sorry for us. Though what I am writing might trigger people to think about our situation, I'd rather we all use it as a motivation to examine our own situations - to look at what is, rather than what could be. I am a firm believer in attitude being based on what you are looking at, and our situation is no different.
Let me describe the situation my sweetest love and I find ourselves in, but I'll do it through our story.
We were married almost a half of a decade ago, and a few years into the marriage, we knew something wasn't happening in the way the rest of the world happened - we were seeing no children. After visiting with specialists, sitting across from a doctor and hearing "there is nothing I can really do for you", trust me, your heart shatters. It's not a break, it's a shatter.
But, while sitting and hearing those words, and feeling the spirit of God whisper (from Psalms 46:10), "Be still, and know that I am God", one can't help but realize that we truly are in His hands. That doesn't make it any easier. It actually makes it a little harder if you like to have things in your own control. We were suddenly unable to be the one behind the eight ball - and there was nothing we could do about it. We tried another doctor a year later, but the same result came with a resounding and emphatic "no!"
We fought with the thoughts of thinking we had done wrong, had made a mistake, or caused some grievance that would forever mar our lives. We were (and still are) plagued with finding out a friend or colleague is pregnant (that's good news, and we still need to hear about it), or read news stories of parents who try to sell a child for drug money, or see bad situations that some are in..... and having those wounds re-opened. There will likely not be an end to this. Granted, time wounds all heels (or is that heals all wounds), but this wound may never heal.
So, here we are, having been dragged through the brutal reality of it all, knowing that we can't have children of our own. Our only recourse (and the only thing that might possibly help heal the wounds) is adoption. We'd love some children, and if we can't have our own, perhaps we can find another one that will fit in, and make this a complete family. Perhaps we can find that one lad or lass who will perfectly compliment our family. Keep your eyes and ears open, and if you run across a situation that could benefit everyone involved, let us know. We have profile links to the top-right (along with e-mail links, too!) so you can contact us, or visit :
But, while sitting and hearing those words, and feeling the spirit of God whisper (from Psalms 46:10), "Be still, and know that I am God", one can't help but realize that we truly are in His hands. That doesn't make it any easier. It actually makes it a little harder if you like to have things in your own control. We were suddenly unable to be the one behind the eight ball - and there was nothing we could do about it. We tried another doctor a year later, but the same result came with a resounding and emphatic "no!"
We fought with the thoughts of thinking we had done wrong, had made a mistake, or caused some grievance that would forever mar our lives. We were (and still are) plagued with finding out a friend or colleague is pregnant (that's good news, and we still need to hear about it), or read news stories of parents who try to sell a child for drug money, or see bad situations that some are in..... and having those wounds re-opened. There will likely not be an end to this. Granted, time wounds all heels (or is that heals all wounds), but this wound may never heal.
So, here we are, having been dragged through the brutal reality of it all, knowing that we can't have children of our own. Our only recourse (and the only thing that might possibly help heal the wounds) is adoption. We'd love some children, and if we can't have our own, perhaps we can find another one that will fit in, and make this a complete family. Perhaps we can find that one lad or lass who will perfectly compliment our family. Keep your eyes and ears open, and if you run across a situation that could benefit everyone involved, let us know. We have profile links to the top-right (along with e-mail links, too!) so you can contact us, or visit :
https://itsaboutlove.org/ial/profiles/28499924/ourMessage.jsf
